Anger: It takes a great deal of energy, but no effort.

We see people getting angry everywhere. From road rage to social media, to news channels, anger is everywhere.

Perhaps it’s because it takes no effort to be angry. We don’t have to think. So many others are angry, even egging us on the be angry too. It’s very easy to get angry. 

Being angry takes no effort. 

It does take a lot of our energy, though. It leaves us with little energy for anything else that actually requires effort. 

The sad thing about anger is that it seems to provide its own jump start. We don’t need to have the energy to get angry. We can be dead tired, and still, some story manages to infuse us with the energy to start being angry all over again. 

It really is like a drug.

And like a drug, anger can consume us. We need it to become energized. We seek it out. 

How else can we explain the amount of time we spend watching cable “news” programs? 

Cable “news” is like the crack den for anger junkies. 

And like drug dealers, the networks know how to hook their users, getting them to come back for another fix.

Being happy requires effort, at first.

Like any new habit, you have to be intentional as you develop happiness. 

The first step is perhaps the hardest. Stop engaging with the anger dealers. Turn off cable “news” and block peddlers of  anger in social media (or just stop social media altogether.)

Next, find joy in the little things. Seek out music that makes you smile or just feel good. Talk to people who have positive energy. If the sun is out, face the sky and smile. Look for the flowers, or the art, or the laughing child. Find the things that make you smile, even just a little.

Once you start making a habit of looking, you’ll find all sorts of things that can make you smile. 

Before long, you just smile more with no extra effort. You may even become the one who helps others to smile. 

The habit starts with effort and soon becomes a part of you.

You have the control not to be angry. It just takes a bit of effort to start.

Nature. Beauty. Gratitude. by Louie Schwartzberg

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Beauty and seductions are nature’s tools for survival because we protect what we fall in love with.
–Louie Schwartzberg

To get the best out of this, open to full screen.

For his TED Talk, go here.

This TED Talk is, like many, very thoughtful. It takes the idea of appreciating now, today and presents it in a touching and beautify way.  “Nature. Beauty. Gratitude.” by Louie Schwartzberg is visually seductive and narrated with heart.

In Praise of Slowness from Carl Honore

in praise of slowness

Carl Honore shares his perspective on slowing down. From Work, to relationship, as well as helping our own kids to slow down.  He reminds us to stop being busy for the sake of being busy.

He also makes the point that companies get better productivity and schools that reduce the work level for students have better performance. Overall, slowing down helps in almost all facets of life.



Being happy is staying in the moment

Material gains and progress are not tied to being happy. Even though we have much more than we had a generation ago we are no happier. Income, age, gender are not connected to being happy.

So, what make us happy? has something to teach us about being happy. The key finding is stay in the moment. Be aware of where you are and be engaged with the people you are with.

We are able to contemplate the past and plan for the future. Our ability for mind-wandering is unique to us as a species. This is a strength.